Sometimes as we grow up and become parents we forget what it was like to be a child. The helpless feeling of not being heard, or not being allowed to voice your opinion. The feeling that your thoughts and your voice just don’t matter can definitely impact the person you eventually become. Our childhood is what molds us into the person we become as adults. As I get older being a mom for the second time and having raised 2 step-children who are in their teens I’ve learned a lot over these past few years.
Observing myself , people around me and their children’s reactions to the way their parent’s speak to them has really opened up my eyes about the way I raise my son. Abuse comes in many different forms and even the best parent in the world (if that even exist) can be an abusive one…
Learning to build better relationships with our children, so they can grow up to have healthy successful relationships as adults is a parents responsibility.
We don’t realize that we very often take out our frustrations and problems on the people we love the most. When I’ve witnessed friends and family take out their frustrations they have with the other parent on their child made me reflect on my relationship with my son and my reactions and although it may not seem like abuse at that time, it does eventually turn into that. The verbal & emotional abuse children endure over time is still considered ABUSE.
What amazes me is the resilience children have to forgive their parents even after they have gone through an abusive situation. Find ways to appropriately handle difficult situations opposed to lashing out on your children for making a mistake.
Children can definitely take you out of sorts. I know this first hand as I have a son who has ADHD and he pushes my buttons DAILY. I have to ask GOD for patience on a daily basis because the Lord knows my son takes me there… but I’ve learned to be a little more patient with him. My son is his own person and he has his own little mind and he makes it known (TRUST ME).
I am working on being a better mom daily because I am far from perfect. I don’t want my sons only image of me to be one of always yelling at him or correcting him all the time. I want him to be who he is and be confident around me. The goal of this post is to shed some light on the good parents who can sometimes be abusive as well in honor of child abuse awareness month.
Do you find yourself yelling Every morning to get your child up and ready for school?
Well instead of having my son wake up the second I say wake up and getting upset if he doesn’t because mornings can be crazy hectic…. I now get up a little earlier or tell him to wake up 5 or 10 minutes before he has to actually get up and ask him if he would like 5 or 10 more minutes. To give him time to actually get off the bed and if he is still on the bed I let him know I gave him extra time so he needs to wake up and and so far I must say it has worked for me.. Less yelling. Let your child know that if they continue to give you a hard time then they will be going to bed earlier since they seem to be so tired in the morning.
I have decided to start a campaign even if it’s just in my home maybe someone can relate and do the same to help bring awareness for the little people in this world and help build healthier relationships for our children.
I vow to start Fight Less Fridays: This is for my son Jayden who I love more anything in this world and I am trying every day to guide him in the right direction and be a better mom.
So every Friday for the month of APRIL in Honor of CHILD ABUSE AWARENESS MONTH I vow to not criticize, yell, or complain. I have sat down with my son an explained the rules and expectations for myself and for him for this campaign.
Will you join me ? If so use #FLF for Fight Less Fridays when you post your pictures and be sure to tag the Latinas United.